Stories from the people behind the story

Before CalmFriction was an organisation, it was a person who decided the friction was worth walking into. This is where we introduce the people carrying that work — starting with the one who started it.

Emma Karuri

Emma Karuri, founder of CalmFriction, sitting on a vintage car
Emma Karuri, Founder

I was born on June 27, to Wilson and Margaret Karuri, and from that moment on, the world has basically been trying to keep up. I was the first of four children, though “first” is an understatement.

My life has been lived at two speeds: “Fast” and “Where is the library?” I treated my education like a scavenger hunt, collecting a degree from the University of Nairobi in 2008, a Law Bar admission in 2011, and enough certificates to wallpaper a small mansion. If there were a PhD in “Reading Under Pressure,” I'd have two.

Professionally, I couldn't pick a lane because I liked all of them. I've been a protector of children, a researcher, and most recently, a teacher and administrator (a role that finally allowed me to get paid for telling people what to do). It was a match made in heaven.

Speaking of heaven, I found my way there (spiritually speaking) in 2008. I've been “stumbling to glory” at Trinity Baptist Church ever since. While I never married (at least not yet) or had children of my own, mostly because I didn't want to share my books, I channeled all that “Auntie Energy” into the classroom, Sunday School and Vacation Bible School. I spent years teaching kids about Jesus, though I suspect some of them just showed up to see if I'd share my snacks.

About those snacks: if you see me, I am likely thinking about Nyama Choma. I approach a platter of ribs with the same legal ferocity I'd bring to a courtroom. In my world, “well-done” refers to a job performance, but “medium-rare” refers to a lifestyle.

“I'm a feisty, book-devouring, meat-loving Counsel who loves the Lord and other people's children. I'm just a work in progress, heading toward the finish line at full throttle. Try to keep up!”

The Rejoinder

Emma Karuri in a reflective moment after the founder's post
Emma Karuri

Confident, feisty, fiercely independent, and energetic is what the founder's post reads like. But the journey to here has been an uphill battle. This here is why, and if you are currently in the thick of your own climb, know you are not alone.

I was born 41 years ago. If you know our generation and that of our parents, "having enough certificates to wallpaper a small mansion" is not standard. Back then, you chose a lucrative career path and stuck to it, no matter how much it drained you. I have been asked whether I am going back to my legal profession more times than double the years I have been alive. When I say "most likely not," I am still met with those familiar, pitiful eyes. It is exhausting to constantly defend your pivot to people who only value predictable paths.

When you are "stumbling to glory," you don't always feel brave enough to admit it. Society expects us to have it all figured out, making the messy middle feel incredibly isolating. And you definitely never parade your singlehood as a church girl. "Don't be picky," say my Christian friends (who have no idea the last time someone asked me out was seven years ago). "Just get a child," recommends concerned family. "You still don't have someone?" asks another, trying to figure out what invisible leprosy you must have. The pressure to fit into traditional timelines can make you feel defective when you are actually just blooming on your own terms.

It took a long, painful while to get to witty and vibrant. There are still heavy days where they completely refuse to surface, and that is entirely okay. For anyone else struggling through the quiet, frustrating seasons of life, remember this: what is calm without the friction? The struggle isn't a sign of failure; it is just the heat that shapes us.

Afflicted Saint, to Christ Draw Near

“Afflicted Saint, to Christ Draw Near” is a hymn written in 1782 by John Fawcett, a British pastor with a heart for hurting believers. Orphaned at twelve, Fawcett spent his life in rural ministry among the poor congregations of Yorkshire. Out of their hardships, and his own, he built this hymn on one comforting promise of Scripture: “As thy days, so shall thy strength be” (Deuteronomy 33:25).

The lyrics are about standing firm through weakness, sorrow, and persecution by trusting that God provides fresh grace for each individual day. Churches around the world still sing it, most often in a beautiful modern adaptation with a refrain added in 2018 by Connie Dever.

Afflicted saint, to Christ draw near,
Thy Saviour’s gracious promise hear;
His faithful word declares to thee,
That as thy day thy strength shall be.

Let not thy heart despond, and say,
“How shall I stand the trying day?”
He has engaged by firm decree,
That as thy day thy strength shall be.

Refrain

So, sing with joy, afflicted one;
The battle’s fierce, but the victory’s won!
God shall supply all that you need;
Yes, as your days your strength shall be.

Thy faith is weak, thy foes are strong,
And if the conflict should be long,
Thy Lord will make the tempter flee,
For as thy day thy strength shall be.

Should persecution rage and flame,
Still trust in thy Redeemer’s name;
In fiery trials thou shalt see
That as thy day thy strength shall be.

When called to bear your weighty cross,
Or sore affliction, pain, or loss,
Or deep distress or poverty,
Still as your days your strength shall be.

Elijah Mugo

Elijah Mugo, CTO of CalmFriction
Elijah Mugo, CTO

My name is Elijah Mugo. My life has been a journey of growth and discovery.I have known a period of great trials and tribulations but more than this, God's faithfulness to be unfailing.

I am encouraged that I wasn't the first Elijah to complain life's hard circumstances. Infact, that God fed Elijah and sent him on his way shows that at times a good meal and a listening ear is all we need. As a husband, father, teacher, and tech enthusiast, I am grateful for the opportunities and challenges that have shaped my journey. The road to all of this has been an incredible “odyssey”.

The hymn “A Debtor to Mercy Alone” is a great source of comfort and encouragement as life passes by on this celestial ball. To spread this good news over a meal or a casual talk is what I look forward to.

Pauline Macharia

Pauline Macharia, member of CalmFriction
Pauline Macharia, Member

Pauline Macharia

Driven and resilient, I'm continuously searching out my destiny unapologetically. I believe in fully experiencing life, embracing its challenges, working through the knocks, and continuously building toward my goals, drawing strength from my deeply held convictions.

This year, I've joined university to advance my academic and professional journey. As a dedicated champion of the boy child, I am committed to empowerment, growth, and creating positive impact in my community.

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